18 Signs that Your Husband Is Bitter

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737353: The Complete Husband
The Complete Husband
By Lou Priolo

Men and women tend to let themselves become bitter by feeding on negative stimulus and dwelling on it.  It is this bitterness that can tear at a marriage until it is destroyed.  Priolo lists 18 signs to look for to see if your husband is bitter:

  1. Frequent arguments (inability to resolve conflicts)
  2. Outbursts of anger (raising of the voice, throwing, hitting, etc.)
  3. Withdrawal (giving her the silent treatment or the cold shoulder)
  4. Diminished affection and sexual activity.
  5. Sarcasm (mocking, ridiculing, mean-spirited joking, etc.)
  6. Acts of vengeance (getting even or trying to hurt her back)
  7. Condescending communication (speaking to her as though she were a child or an inferior person)
  8. Criticism (a critical, condemnatory, judgmental attitude)
  9. Suspicion and distrust
  10. Hypersensitivity
  11. Intolerance (not overlooking little offenses that once went unnoticed)
  12. Impatience
  13. Misuse of authority (domineering, dictatorial, or tyrannical attitudes which require needless exactions of obedience)
  14. Lack of social interaction as a couple
  15. Loss of companionship (the intimacy of the one flesh relationship is damaged and communication becomes superficial)
  16. Lack of respect (dishonoring her to her face and in the presence of others)
  17. Lack of kindness and sympathy
  18. Angry children (who have been greatly provoked by their parents)

In order to overcome this bitterness, we must practice true forgiveness.  Forgiveness is making three promises:

  1. I promise not to bring up the offense to the person being forgiven.
  2. I promise not to speak about the offense to others.
  3. I promise not to dwell on the offense myself.

Only then can you start on the path toward healing.


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Table of contents for The Complete Husband

  1. Introduction
  2. I Wish She Came With an Owners Manual
  3. A Woman’s Roles
  4. 11 Questions to Ask Your Wife
  5. So, What’s There to Talk About?
  6. A Crash Course in Biblical Communication - Part 1
  7. 11 Un-Biblical Forms of Communication
  8. Maintaining a Spirit of Unity
  9. Love is a Verb
  10. The Root Cause of All Marriage Problems
  11. 18 Signs that Your Husband Is Bitter
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