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Comment on 5 Tips for Selling Your House by MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 19:03:21 +0000

@Colleen: My wife always thought you should bake cookies or bread right before they came in, and she didn’t want window air conditioners.

I don’t know how much ambiance actually adds. And I’d rather have an A/C in the window than sweat it out!

Comment on 5 Tips for Selling Your House by Colleen

Colleen — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 18:40:59 +0000

Have lots of lights on when they come through, maybe even a little jazz. Nice smelling candles are definitely a bonus!

Comment on Fixing a Breaking Marriage by MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 17:40:29 +0000

@AG: The length of time would be a good indicator that something’s up. I find, however, that people who have dated this long are stuck– thinking that they could never find anyone else. Though she needs to find someone else.

Comment on Fixing a Breaking Marriage by AG

AG — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 17:30:18 +0000

Oh, I totally agree she can do better. I’ve been telling her that for over four years. She knows it, too. Pretty much everyone on earth except this guy realizes he’s never going to find another girl who will be so good to him.

AG’s last blog post..The Front Fell Off

Comment on 7 Things You May Not Do When She Sins Against You by MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 15:00:41 +0000

@AG: You’re right, it is a partnership. There’s a continuum there when it comes to the each person in the relationship between doormat and dominant. The happy marriage has each person close together on that continuum. The unhappy marriage finds them further apart or equal (since truly equal– though possible in the Garden of Eden perhaps– results in problems all their own).

Comment on 5 Tips for Selling Your House by MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 14:58:34 +0000

@AG: Good point– when I see “Needs TLC” I know that it’s like a “Handyman’s Special.”

Our Realtor did a poor job labeling our house on their website too– so make sure you check that. You may even want to take/offer your own pictures.

Comment on Fixing a Breaking Marriage by MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 14:52:39 +0000

@AG: It’s amazing the feeling of relief that confession brings. All the time that you’re subject to wondering if someone will find out– they go away when you tell what’s going on.

As far as the couple, I would believe that the appropriate thing would be for this young lady to find a different fella– although it will be hard. Seven years is a long time to be dating and it not heading anywhere. And the fact that the man is unwilling to even sit down and receive some counseling tells me that she can do better– for this guy will probably be one of the dictators instead of a servant-leader.

From this little bit you shared, I believe she can do better.

Comment on 7 Things You May Not Do When She Sins Against You by AG

AG — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 14:32:01 +0000

It’s also important to help the husband make decisions and lead, especially where children are concerned, because sometimes the husband just needs a break. Maybe he’s got a huge presentation the next day at work that he needs to focus on.
I can’t stand it when a “helpmeet” is seen as more of a housekeeper than a partner in the relationship. Someone said to me once (I wish I could remember who!) that in being a helpmeet, sometimes we push our husbands.
If a man is running a race, which scripture says we all are, and he gets fatigued, his helper shouldn’t just stand there behind him and wait on him. But she can encourage him forward, even pushing him on. I think many Christians don’t understand this concept.

AG’s last blog post..The Front Fell Off

Comment on 5 Tips for Selling Your House by AG

AG — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 14:24:36 +0000

Great tips, MIn. A few more:

Know that you can sign a contract with a seller for a new house which is contingent on the sale of your current house. This will prevent you from being stuck with two mortgages. The down side is that this contingency is not attractive to a seller.

Invest in a new coat of paint and new carpet. Check the roof and repair any damage. The more like a model home your house looks, the quicker it will sell.

MIn’s right - don’t exaggerate, but you can use the word “non-conforming” to talk about a bedroom which maybe doesn’t have all four walls, a closet, or an escapable window. In our house, we have only two bedrooms, but we have two non-conforming bedrooms as well.

Don’t underestimate the power of the verbage your Realtor will use to put on MLS. There’s certain “Realtor speak” phrases that, although sound good, will put off anyone who speaks “Realtor speak.” Things like “Needs TLC” will put off anyone not looking for a remodel. Don’t lie on the MLS, but put a description (not bullet points) of the home which highlights its two or three best features. Here’s a funny link with some “Realtor speak” and its translations: http://www.biggerpockets.com/r.....te-jargon/

AG’s last blog post..The Front Fell Off

Comment on 1930’s Husband by MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 14:22:34 +0000

@AG: I know they said that they multiplied number of children by 5 when considering the score and calculating involvement in kids activities, so maybe you’re onto something.

When I was reading through mine there were definitely some I knew that they wanted checked, but they weren’t me (unfortunately?).

I definitely need to take my wife out more… (Though recently I’ve been doing pretty good at this?)