Weekend Kindness
Reaching Others Through Kindness

SERVE YOUR HUSBAND.

This is meant to be a time of sharing my secrets. Can I share with you what I believe is one of the most destructive forces in a marriage? It is the sin of selfishness! The secret of a successful marriage is selflessness and serving. If you are trying to get something out of your marriage for yourself, you will never be satisfied. It doesn?t work that way. Forget about yourself and think of all the ways you can serve and satisfy your husband. This will bring you joy and freedom. This will release your husband to love you. Even Jesus, the Son of God, did not come to be served but to serve. He was our example. Read Philippians 2:6-8.

Stamp on all the works of the flesh that poke their way up in your life – your self-pitying, self-centered, self-gratifying, self-serving, self-pleasing, self-opinionated self! They destroy the marriage.

Marriage seminars are good. Marriage counseling is good. But they are not the total answer. I know couples that have been to loads of marriage seminars and still have problems in their marriage. All you need to do is forget about self, start serving and your problems will disappear!

Make your home a refuge where your husband can find peace and harmony from the strife of the workplace. Daily prepare a nutritious and appetizing meal for him. There is nothing more soothing than coming home to find the table set nicely, the meal ready with delicious smells floating from the kitchen, a peaceful atmosphere, and everyone ready to sit down to the evening meal.

~Nancy Campbell~

SUPPORT YOUR HUSBAND.

We are to complete our husband, not compete with him. Genesis 2:18 says, “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone: I will make him a help meet for him.” The word “help meet” is “neged”. It means, “part opposite, counterpart, over against or before, other side.” God made us opposite to our husband. We have a different task. It would have been unnecessary for God to make another creation like Adam to do the same thing as him.

I believe that one of the most fundamental understandings of a successful marriage is to know our role in the marriage. God ordained the husband to be the Provider, the Protector and the Priest of the home. He created the woman to be the Nurturer, the Nourisher and the Nest builder. The husband is the Breadwinner; the wife is the Bread baker! The husband is the King; the wife is the Queen.

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SUBMIT TO YOUR HUSBAND?S HEADSHIP.

I guess we might as well start with the one that most women want to avoid! However,it?s one of the secrets so I can?t leave it out! We may not always like what God says but it?s the only way that works. Let?s find out more.

1) Submission is Biblical.

Many couples today believe they can get along doing things their own way, rather than standing on God?s truth. But man?s way doesn?t work. I listened to a preacher the other week who quoted the fact that the percentage of divorce amongst Christians is now higher than the world. How devastating! But this is the fruit of man?s ways.

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I have come across a wonderful devotion that will strengthen your marriage. It is written by one of my favorite ladies, Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies. It is rather lengthy so I am going to split it up a bit. The title is Seven Secrets For Wives. Today I will give you the introduction and I will periodically post one of the seven secrets. I think you will be blessed. Please stop by and learn about each of these seven secrets, take them to heart, look to the Word of God, and be prayerful concerning them, and may your marriages be strengthened, blessed, and honoring to the Lord.

On the 2nd March 2000 Colin and I celebrated our 37th wedding anniversary. Where has the time gone? Colin was 60 years old on the 1st April 2000 (yes, April Fool?s Day!) and I follow next year. In the early years of our marriage I remember attending a silver wedding anniversary of a couple in our church, and I thought they were old! When I planned a Ruby Wedding anniversary (40th) for my parents years ago, I thought they were getting very old! Now it won?t be long before we celebrate our ruby anniversary. But age is more a matter of the mind than years, isn?t it? I feel younger than I ever have in my life. However, I do trust that I have become a little wiser and more mature as the years have gone on.

Colin and I have been blessed with a faithful and committed marriage. I can remember thinking before I married, “What on earth it would be like to live with a person for all your life?” Wow, these years have seemed like one day ? and now we?re ready for another 37 years! The following are some of the secrets I have learned over the years. They are all biblical concepts. I am sure you must be getting used to the fact that I always resort to the Word of God for the foundation of my life, so back to the Word we go. Here are seven “S?s” for you.

~Nancy Campbell~

Make sure you check back often?for the entire series and please leave your comments. Hopefully we can encourage one another to make our marriages stronger.

Believe it or not, there was a time when a couple did not have to worry about their relationship.  A time when there were no quarrels.  A time when spouses loved each other as they ought.

But, unfortunately, it didn?t last very long.

In the beginning, God created man and then created woman when He saw that man was alone.  He created her to be a help meet for him.

And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 

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There have been a lot of calls in recent years for the return of the ?real man.?  We say that he went missing, replaced by the ?meterosexual? or the feminized man.

And now, everyone?s out there trying to define what a real man is.  They define it by hobbies?does he like to fish or hunt?  Some define it as grooming habits.  Others define it by what it?s not: getting facials, botox, etc.

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I’m a daydreamer in the worst way.

I daydreamed constantly about how I’d be proposed to, what my wedding would be like, my honeymoon…  And so far, hubby has surpassed all of my imaginings with every one of those.  (But then again, it’s hard to get the honeymoon wrong when you stick your music-loving wife on a boat with a hundred big-name Christian musicians.)

So what kind of romantic getaway have I dreamt up?  Believe it or not, it’s fairly simple.  A secluded cabin in the mountains.  Lots of junk food like popcorn and chocolate candies.  Cooking good food like herb chicken together.  Watching sappy movies, playing board games, and going for walks together.  Mostly a weekend shut-in together would be my ideal romantic getaway.

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