Weekend Kindness
Reaching Others Through Kindness

In today?s world of texting, cell phones and instant everything, it?s easy to think that our loved one is just a couple of seconds away.  When we hear their voice, we can think that they are across the hall instead of across the globe.

And yet, they are not there.  They are not filling that space in your house, or in your bed.  They are not doing something near by, and there?s something raw and tangible in the idea of them being with you, instead of tethered by electronics.

To help convey the true feelings of your heart, here are 10 different ways to say ?I Miss You.?

1. Remind them of Things You did Together

Nothing tells a person better the love that you have for them and the fact that they are missed then you reminding them of time that you shared together and what you liked about that time?and how you wish you could do that again.  Remind them of what they were wearing, what the smells are like: recreate the event so that you can feel the emotions anew.

The emotional bond between two people can be just as strong?or stronger?when you?re apart if you can focus your memories to reliving events.

2. Send Them a Surprise, Impractical Gift

It doesn?t have to be something big, but the fact that you put in the effort to make sure they get a surprise will definitely make them know that they are loved and missed.

This is the same way a husband or wife lets their partner know that while they are at work they miss their spouse by having flowers delivered.  It?s something that lets them know that they are special and that the spouse is thinking about them.

If this gift is something too practical, then it loses some of the magic.  This is supposed to be a ?because I love you? not ?because you needed a new toaster oven.?

3. Send Them a Photo

People change every day, but one of the great things about modern technology is that we can keep up with appearances even though we may be far away.

Now, the photo?s I?m talking about aren?t driver?s license photos, or some kind of portraits, but every day photos with some degree of intimacy.

What you?re trying to convey is that you love them and that you miss them?and what they are missing and not being able to be a part of.  While the goal is not jealousy, it?s an outpouring of emotion.

Now, these photos can be intimate, they can be special apparel, or they can be goofy?that?s up to you.  The one that?s away should be sending photos of where they are and what they are seeing and the one that?s behind should be sending photos of what the adventurer has left behind.

4. Count Down the Days

Nothing says ?I miss you? more than you knowing just how many days there are between now and when you?ll be reunited.  You see it all over Facebook and couples are always counting down to something, so let your loved one know how much you care by knowing how long it is until you?ll be reunited.

You don?t have to obsess about it, but make sure you keep it in any written correspondence.  Make it a little game, a little cryptic, and it will be a great touch.

5. Don?t Talk to them All The Time

Though you may be tempted to always be connected with them, don?t be.  Absence will make the heart grow fonder, but if you?re constantly calling, writing, etc. you will find that eventually they will feel that they?re being smothered and they might start to ignore you or push you away.

This can especially happen in Long Distance Relationships before marriage.

My advice: strike a good balance between letting them know that you care and letting them have space, and they?ll be happy to come back to you and will include you in all the new memories that they have!

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