Weekend Kindness
Reaching Others Through Kindness

Double dating is a great way to get out with some friends and have a good time.  Many people have trouble double dating because there are some obstacles that they let get in the way: children, habit, preferred activities.

The important thing to remember is that you should take the opportunity to double date for the following reasons:

1. You need to try something new.

Most of the time, couples will do things familiar to them, they will do things that they know that they like.  And most of the time (if they?re still dating) they get bored of doing these things.  I mean, how many times can we sit at home playing Monopoly before someone says ?Enough!?

Another couple probably has other likes and dislikes, and you shouldn?t be afraid to try something new?who knows, you might like it too!

2. You need to get away from the kids.

This doesn?t have as big an impact if you?re still dating?although you could apply this to your siblings.  Parents, especially those that are involved in daily care of children, need to have a break where they can do things with other adults.  In some families, you may begin to think that the adult life consists simply of diaper duty, kissing boo boos and watching Dora the Explorer.

Double dating allows you to get out of the house with adult companionship and there you can work on bonding with adults using adult conversation.  Of course this may also mean that you have to find a babysitter.  But the time away is priceless.

3. Double dating strengthens your bond.

It?s one thing if you?re always doing something that?s just the two of you.  It?s another thing when you add another couple.  Let me try to illustrate.

When it?s just the two of you, and you play a bored board game, it?s you against him.  When you?re with another couple, it?s you and him against them!

The two of you are seen as a couple, a unit, and not as individuals pitted against each other.

4. Double dating gives you a chance to relate to the same sex.

When you double date, you have a chance to talk with someone of the same sex.  You may find that your husbands have similar problems or that your wives both like to scrapbook.  You get a chance to talk with someone that has a good chance of understanding where you?re coming from.

5. You have a chance to feel good about your relationship.

Knowing that you can have fun with other people, and that your partner is there with you, will help strengthen your bond both during the outing and also afterward.  You?ll get a chance to see him or her in front of someone else, and see that they love you?not that other person.

That?s priceless.

So, what are you waiting for?  Time for you to get out, find some friends, and schedule that outing ASAP!

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