 | HusbandsSometimes You Have to CookPosted Tuesday, June 9th, 2009 and visited 108 times, 1 so far today by MInTheGap |
You each brought different skills, talents and likes to the table, and naturally you gravitated towards doing those things. You’re proficient at them, and can do them much better than your partner.
But, there comes a time in every couple’s life where something happens that changes the dynamic and forces you to do something your spouse usually does. And you do the best you can but you cannot replace them.
And this time in your life can teach you two different things:
Appreciation
First, is appreciation. You see, when your spouse juggles keeping the house clean while watching the kids like only she knows how, and then you’re tasked with doing it, you know that you pale in comparison to her organizational ability.
When you have to take a turn doing the finances, or try to understand what he does for a living, you know that you would not fare well in his world.
It is then, when you have to “walk a mile in another’s moccasins” that you realize how much the other person does, and begin to think of them more as a contributor instead of an “useless appendage.”
That You’re Not The Only One that Can Do It
Sometimes, when we get highly specialized we begin to believe a couple of things about ourselves.
First, we believe we’re superior to our spouse. We know how to do this certain thing, and we’re the best at it. They couldn’t even begin to be able to do it as well as we could. The truth is that both of you are smart and contribute, and that, given a good amount of time, the general functions you provide could be taken over by the other. He could learn to cook. She could learn to blog. The thing is, you’ve chosen not to, and you’re fine with it. Don’t get a big head!
Second, we believe the other person would be lost without us. To a degree this is true. I don’t know what I’d do without my wife. I know many that are older that lose a spouse and forget how—or can’t learn how—to perform the function that the spouse did. However, the truth is that there is help, and people can pick up skills. Don’t fret, you’re still irreplaceable. It’s just that you shouldn’t use this as a means to make yourself proud!
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