 | Daughter, fatherYou Are Your Daughter’s First LovePosted Tuesday, August 26th, 2008 and visited 181 times, 2 so far today by MInTheGap |
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Dad, you are the first man in your daughter’s life. You are the role model, the one that she will look up to. You are the example– of what a dad should be and what God is like.
What an awesome and scary thought!
The first chapter in Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters is You Are the Most Important Man in Her life. What’s amazing is that Dr. Meeker attests from experience how girls are impacted by their fathers:
I have watched daughters talk to fathers. When you come in the room, they change. Everything about them changes: their eyes, their mouths, their gestures, their body language. Daughters are never lukewarm in the presence of their fathers. They might take mothers for granted, but not you. They light up– or they cry. They watch you intensely. They hang on your words. They hope for your attention, and they wait for it in frustration– or in despair. they need a gesture of approval, a nod of encouragement, or even simple eye contact to let them know you care and are willing to help.
When she’s in your company, your daughter tries harder to excel. When you teach her, she learns more rapidly. When you guide her, she gains confidence. If you fully understood how profoundly you can influence your daughter’s life, you would be terrified, overwhelmed, or both. Boyfriends, brothers, even husbands can’t shape her character the way that you do. You will influence her entire life because she gives you authority she gives no other man.
That last part is the part that struck me the most. You figure that since they will hopefully be married for much longer than they’ll be in your home, you think that their future husband will have a tremendous impact.
When they’re going through their teenage years, and they talk about their boyfriend and it seems their world revolves around them, it’s hard to imagine that you have the influence that you do.
But take heart, men, you have an influence in your life– you need to take advantage of it, and help guide her heart to find the right man, to strive to be the best she can be. It is you that will inspire her to go further than she thought possible.
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Table of contents for Fathers and Daughters
- Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters
- You Are Your Daughter’s First Love
- She Needs a Hero
- You Are Her First Love
- Teach Her Humility
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August 27th, 2008 at 11:00 am Subscribed to Comments
This is so seriously true.
AG’s last blog post..Praise Report for Kaleo
August 27th, 2008 at 2:17 pm
@AG: You would know.
August 27th, 2008 at 3:26 pm Subscribed to Comments
Absolutely.
Hubs said yesterday that he thinks he got the short end of the stick by marrying me - ’cause I got to watch a perfect example of a husband in my father and now my hubs has to live up to that. He says it’s not an easy thing to do. I’m one lucky gal, I guess.
AG’s last blog post..Praise Report for Kaleo
August 28th, 2008 at 10:21 am
@AG: All because of that dad of yours!
September 11th, 2008 at 1:48 pm
This is a really good post. Thanks for sharing this!
It’s so true about little girls learning faster with their daddies. I can work all day with her to learn something new; she’ll learn it in an hour with him.
This makes me really thankful for my hubby. He’s an amazing Daddy and I know my little sweetie feels incredibly secure in his love. He amazes me how, with his busy school and work schedule, he still makes her a top priority. He’s such a good daddy.
September 12th, 2008 at 9:28 pm
@Rachel: Well, you’re also at another disadvantage– you see her more than she sees her dad. It’s easier to be consistent over shorter periods of time, and the fact that she looks forward to the time that she just has dad means that she will probably learn easier from him as well.