Weekend Kindness
Reaching Others Through Kindness

Last Monday marked the seventh year my wife and I have been married, and on that day one of my coworkers and I had an interesting conversation.  He said that he believed that seven was a big year inasmuch as it would indicate how well a marriage could survive.

Then he said that it was only seven years that he and the mother of his children were able to stay together.

The statistics for divorce are incredible?and very sad.  What?s more, it says something about the way that we approach commitments and, in turn, the way that our children will approach commitments.

There are times in every marriage where it?s best to get outside help?especially before it gets to the point of separation.  Usually at that point the bitterness and resentment have built up to the point that it may be too late.  It is at the beginning of tension that I recommend going to your Pastor or a Marriage Counselor.

Marriage Family Counseling is not as bad as it seems.  It?s certainly better than the alternative.  Most of the time it consists of taking the approach of having someone look at the situation from the outside with an unbiased and objective look, and then recommending changes.

Yes, changes.  You see, I don?t know that I?ve ever seen a conflict where both sides were not in the wrong somewhere.  Either communication, actions, anger, or something else exists on both sides, and mending the relationship will take both sides admitting their problems and working on them.

There are also programs like How to Save Your Marriage and Marriage Conferences that will let you take time to get alone with your spouse and work through any lingering issues that the two of you may have.

You?ve invested too long in your marriage?even if you?re a newlywed?to let it fall away.  Treat it with more care than you would give your relationship with your friends or children, and prioritize keeping that relationship as strong as it can be.

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