 | Husbands, Relationship Builder, WivesDon’t Let Me Out of Your SightPosted Saturday, June 7th, 2008 and visited 143 times, 5 so far today by MInTheGap |
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David Plotz and Hanna Rosin decided to put their love and marriage of 11 years to the test by trying not to be more than 15 feet apart an entire day. They were inspired by a couple of buddhists that were doing the same thing for 10 years, and they wondered what a day would be like.
What they found was interesting. Though neither of them wanted to do it the following day, they learned a lot about who the other person was and a lot about what spending time together truly meant.
What’s interesting is the two people’s different perspective on the time together. I believe David sees the distance (measured by a rope) as limiting his freedom, whereas Hanna seems to see it as a way to keep David involved in what’s going on with the family—even though both chafe at waiting for Hanna to get ready in the morning.
If you decide to try this experiment, may I suggest a lot of preplanning—making sure your work knows what you’re doing on both sides, and if you’re a stay at home or homeschooling mom make sure that you have some babysitting lined up. I’d suggest spending time doing what each of you do, just as they did, rather than spending the entire time at one place of employment.
It could really build your relationship and let your husband/wife see what you do all day. It could be a growing experience. If you’re daring enough to take the challenge.
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June 9th, 2008 at 5:26 pm Subscribed to Comments
Hubby and I spent all last week together and we were nearly always within hand-holding distance. It was so good for our marriage in a lot of ways, but it was also a bit restricting. I’m glad for the time, though. I would recommend couples do this.
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June 10th, 2008 at 3:34 pm
Wow. Not sure I would want to try this. My husband is a “quality time” person, so he would probably do ok with it and would probably even enjoy it, but I definitely need my space.
We’ll be traveling in the car together tomorrow for about 10 hours. That seems different though because all we are doing is going together in the same direction, we aren’t trying to clean the house, get supper, clean the garage, talk on the phone, etc.
Thanks for sharing this as food for thought.
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June 12th, 2008 at 5:53 am
@Claudia: It does seem like a difficult concept, but that’s also because our culture tries to encourage couples to be themselves, even in marriage. Let’s just say it’s really interesting to think through– for on some level we’re supposed to echo our relationship to Christ in our marriages, and I don’t know of many who would say that they need their space from Christ!