Husbands, Wives

Sometimes It’s What You Don’t Say

Posted Thursday, May 8th, 2008 and visited 72 times, 1 so far today
by MInTheGap

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Guess WhoGossip has a way of tearing people to shreds– and when it’s gossip inside the family, or even disparaging remarks in jest, it can wound someone on the inside and twist the knife deep into a person.

And this “harmless” disparagement of husbands among wives is not harmless either, ladies. It may seem like it’s just fun and games to put down your husband when you’re gossiping with your girlfriends, but it isn’t. Would you say that kind of stuff to his face? Would you tell your husband that he can’t take care of himself if his life depended on it, that he’s selfish and doesn’t pay enough attention to his family? If you wouldn’t, then don’t go around laughing about it with your girlfriends without a second thought. Men seem stoic and unbreakable, but they aren’t. If your husband heard you telling your girlfriends how selfish he is, how he never helps out around the house, how he’s such a mess, how he can’t take care of himself… even if you meant it in jest, I can guarantee you that it would kill him inside. And you, loving wife, would probably never even know it.  [Hat Tip: Vox Day]


We all need to be careful with this– because we all know when we do it– and sometimes we’ll do it with the person standing there to just get leverage.  This isn’t speech that builds others up– it just tears people down.  We should be better than this…



MInTheGap has been commenting on the culture at large and current events since 2004. He enjoys spending time with his family, writing, and being active in his local church.
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