 | Encouragment, Relationship BuilderGive a Little Extra LovePosted Wednesday, April 30th, 2008 and visited 414 times, 3 so far today by Mary |
Words of love are great, but showing your heart says it best.
There’s much to be said for a little consideration and unselfishness. Remember how passionate we all were about every little detail concerning each other in the early days of engagement and newlywed life? We all prefer being seen over being invisible, and being cherished over being taken for granted.
If rescuing the beauty is tantamount to winning the war, then let me remind you that it’s the battles which wage a successful campaign, one bleeding heart at a time!
A few simple ideas:
- Save the last piece of dessert for him
- Warm the car up for her on a cold winter morning, scrape the frost off the windows, etc
- Bring him or her a cold/hot drink when you know it would be appreciated, without asking first
- Remember birthdays and anniversaries
- Bring home his favorite magazine
- Help carry in the groceries
- Help clear off the supper table
- Rinse out the tub after your showers and baths, and the sink after shaving
- Say please and thank-you
- Give an unsolicited shoulder rub
- Grab your wife and waltz her around the house
- Hang out in the kitchen with her
- Hang out in the garage or shop with him
When my husband helps me in the kitchen, I feel so cherished! It says to me: “I’d rather be with you than snoozing in the recliner or surfing the net, etc.” Similarly, when I’m not afraid to dig in and get dirty helping my man with his truck projects, or working cattle, he’s practically giddy. You’d think I was his girlfriend all over again!
When we take a special and unselfish interest in our spouses’ lives it speaks volumes. It’s too easy after several years of marriage and two or three kids to relax and grow almost numb to your partner’s passions and desires. Examine your heart and motives. Could you care less about their interests? If so, chances are good that you’re too immersed in your own.
And don’t forget the main things most men and women want are pretty simple. A little extra love can go a long way. What speaks love to you?
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April 30th, 2008 at 2:04 pm Subscribed to Comments
Such an awesome post!
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April 30th, 2008 at 6:14 pm
Thanks, AG!
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May 23rd, 2008 at 2:54 pm
@Mary: What I really like about this list is that it’s practical– and thoughtful. I was reading Mom’s Needs / Dad’s Needs and one of the things that has stuck with me is antithetical to the current “you must have your own space mentality”, namely: you need to find times to do things together, and spend as much time together as possible.
This may mean finding new sports that you both like to do, or doing something that your spouse likes to do and you do not. The key is to do things together, to show love for one another, and enjoy each other’s company.
May 24th, 2008 at 1:03 am
Great points. It means SO much to me when my dh shows interest or goes out of his way to make sure I get to do something important to me. Like stopping at Barnes and Noble when he really isn’t into books at all…and he’s so nice, he watches the kids in the children’s nook while I browse and browse. It would be like me killing time at a western store while he spends all day looking at the different bits for horse bridles. (Which he did on our honeymoon at PFI!)
That was an eye opener to what he found fascinating! Lol.
I really like the idea of trying to find something you like to do together…something new. We go through phases. Chess was the last thing we jumped on together.
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May 24th, 2008 at 2:56 pm
@Mary: Before we had children, we did a lot of games– Virtuous Blonde is the queen of Othello. But we weren’t too wise when it came to what to spend our time on. Here’s where having Cable can be a bad thing.
Speaking of funny things to do on your honeymoon, one of my friends actually went out at caught a baseball came on their wedding night– or at least a part of one. Talk about priorities!
May 24th, 2008 at 2:57 pm
@Mary: Oh, and I forgot, you should go through my site to buy things at Barnes & Noble– if you’re going to buy it anyway. ;-)