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Have You Rebounded?

Posted Monday, March 3rd, 2008 and visited 178 times, 1 so far today
by MInTheGap

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Sometimes we learn the most when times are bad, not when they’re good.  Each of us is impacted in different ways by different events.

  • When I was a kid, I didn’t like the way some of the older children in church treated me, so when I grew up I made sure to treat them well.
  • When I chose to go to summer camp instead of my family trip and I look back on that decision, I remember that family is more important than a girlfriend.

That latter touches on the subject at hand– the impact of love on our lives. You see love impacts how we think, what we choose and how we act. It impacts how merciful we are, and what we overlook. It can make us value certain things more than others.

A lot of “ink has been spilled” on dating and it’s negatives. One of the biggest negatives is the rebound. When you’re on the rebound you make really bad choices:

  • You can choose to go after someone that you wouldn’t have considered before because of bad judgement.
  • You can choose to compromise your previous standards.
  • You can start to believe that simply because one person did not want you that no one will.

But you can also learn a valuable lesson, which is something that I did. My lesson was that it’s important to find someone that you can trust, someone that will be faithful.

Lord-willing, all of our relationships will be long ones, but it’s the trust in the other person that allows us to grow together, to know that when you fight it’s not the end, etc.

The important thing to know about rebounds is that they will end, but not as quickly as you think. And during that time you need a lot of God and a lot less of the opposite sex.


MInTheGap has been commenting on the culture at large and current events since 2004. He enjoys spending time with his family, writing, and being active in his local church.
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14 Responses to “Have You Rebounded?”

  1. MyAvatars 0.2 AG Says:
    March 4th, 2008 at 2:01 pm Subscribed to Comments

    Let God be your rebound love!   (In other words, cling to Him!)

    AG’s last blog post..The Jealous Lover

  2. MyAvatars 0.2 MInTheGap Says:
    March 5th, 2008 at 2:31 pm

    That’s definitely the best option– even though I’m sure that in this situation we’re doing a whole lot more blaming God and indulging in a lot more self pity than we should be.

    It’s funny how the things that seem more restricting actually allow for more freedom and a better experience!

  3. MyAvatars 0.2 AG Says:
    March 5th, 2008 at 3:06 pm Subscribed to Comments

    They allow you to have fewer regrets. The less we look regretfully on our pasts, the more freedom we have to enjoy the present and future.

    And, by the way, praise God for grace!

    AG’s last blog post..Mary

  4. MyAvatars 0.2 MInTheGap Says:
    March 5th, 2008 at 4:17 pm

    And they also make it so that there’s less baggage. My dad only ever dated my mom, and in some ways that’s a tremendous blessing!

  5. MyAvatars 0.2 AG Says:
    March 5th, 2008 at 4:46 pm Subscribed to Comments

    It is truly a blessing. Hubby was only my 4th boyfriend and only my 2nd serious boyfriend.

    AG’s last blog post..Mary

  6. MyAvatars 0.2 MInTheGap Says:
    March 6th, 2008 at 4:36 pm

    VirtuousBlonde was my 5th girlfriend and 2nd serious girlfriend.

  7. MyAvatars 0.2 AG Says:
    March 6th, 2008 at 4:45 pm Subscribed to Comments

    MIn, you’ll have to share your love story with the WK readers sometime. (You may have already, so sorry if my newness here makes me ignorant.)

    AG’s last blog post..Mary

  8. MyAvatars 0.2 MInTheGap Says:
    March 10th, 2008 at 12:14 pm

    Now, AG, I have told the story of my engagement here. The whole story of my life would probably bore most people.

  9. MyAvatars 0.2 AG Says:
    March 11th, 2008 at 3:44 pm Subscribed to Comments

    I’ll have to go look through the archives.

    AG’s last blog post..Mary

  10. MyAvatars 0.2 MInTheGap Says:
    March 12th, 2008 at 8:09 am

    It may not be here, it may be on my blog. You’ll have to look through here for the engagement image and challenge.

  11. MyAvatars 0.2 AG Says:
    March 12th, 2008 at 11:32 am Subscribed to Comments

    For the wha? :p

    AG’s last blog post..Mary

  12. MyAvatars 0.2 MInTheGap Says:
    March 12th, 2008 at 12:58 pm

    There was this Engagement Meme we sent out and there this image of a couple getting engaged on the beach. Are you really going to make me go find it?

  13. MyAvatars 0.2 AG Says:
    March 12th, 2008 at 2:09 pm Subscribed to Comments

    Sue me for being curious.

    Be nice to newbies.

    AG’s last blog post..Mary

  14. MyAvatars 0.2 MInTheGap Says:
    March 12th, 2008 at 3:06 pm

    You’ll want to check out the post How Did You Get Engaged? and maybe post on your blog how you did, and pass it along!

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