Comments on: Purity is More About the Heart than the Body

By: Esther

Esther — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 22:37:02 +0000

Thanks for the encouraging story :)

By: AG

AG — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 16:06:02 +0000

That they’re not enjoying it is another good point. Many of my friends who have made bad decisions as far as purity say they don’t enjoy sexual activity at all – even after they’ve been married.

AG’s last blog post..The Jealous Lover

By: MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 15:54:38 +0000

Post-wedding or otherwise. I mean, what other reasons explain why girls will give sexual favors to guys for attention? What gets the person that originally wants to stay pure to not only start, but to keep having sex?

There’s a lot of misconception out there that feeds on itself. A lot of teens are boasting about one thing on the outside while feeling empty on the inside. They’re just too afraid to say that they aren’t finding it enjoyable, they’d rather not do it, and that they’d much rather not have sex.

By: AG

AG — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 07:16:06 +0000

Min, I never thought about the post-wedding consequences of kids bragging in the locker room. Wow. Mary, thanks so much. I'm glad it could bless you. AG's last blog post..The Jealous Lover

By: Mary

Mary — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 02:15:23 +0000

AG, amazing story, bless you for sharing it here so candidly. Mary's last blog post..My Full House

By: MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 21:24:06 +0000

And then, this kind of talk feeds expectations, so that when a couple does have sex, they wonder if they’re missing something, or they lie and inflate it. And it leaves people feeling hollow, or feeling ripped off. It’s amazing what we’ve let the culture do to us and to our children in the name of equality and freedom. We’ve robbed them of true joy and the best that can be in exchange for a temporary hit.

By: AG

AG — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 17:48:13 +0000

You're very right. When I speak to teens, I try to always tell them that whatever they hear in the means of "locker room talk" is usually bluffing. Odds are, their peers don't know any more than they do, but just are making things up as they go. Most kids have never considered that people would lie about stuff like that. AG's last blog post..Growing Pains

By: MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 17:35:17 +0000

It's amazing the external pressure that exists on teens today-- even if the pressure is non-existent. I know that I saw some of the surveys that came by, and I know that there was pressure to exaggerate what you had or had not done-- and people bragging about lying on the survey.

It seems that part of the battle is making sure that people know that you can be abstinent, it does work, and it's not that odd. And this is exactly the opposite message it seems that peers, media and even parents seem to be sending their kids.

Thanks for your stand, and you do have a great testimony.

By: AG

AG — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 15:46:13 +0000

Thanks, everyone. It’s a scary thing to be this raw and honest and I thank you for your warm reception and kind words.
Claudia, God has already used my husband and I to minister to several hundred youth! Only through Him can something so amazing happen!
One time, after we spoke at a purity rally, hubby and I made ourselves available for prayer, but stood a little ways apart so kids could talk to just one of us. I prayed with a 12 or 13 year old girl who loved her boyfriend and wanted to make him happy, but wasn’t ready to give herself to him. She asked for prayer for strength to stay pure. Turns out, hubby was busy praying with her boyfriend at the same time for the same thing: He thought she wanted more and he wanted to make her happy, but wasn’t ready to give himself to her. I sure hope they figured out that neither of them wanted to!

AG’s last blog post..Growing Pains

By: Claudia

Claudia — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 14:47:41 +0000

AG, this is a beautiful story of trusting God. I pray that your testimony will help other young men and women remain emotionally pure as well as physically pure.

God bless you both!

Claudia’s last blog post..How Your Husband’s Childhood Impacts Your Marriage