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The Complete Husband
By Lou Priolo
When last we were together on this topic, we were talking about maintaining a spirit of unity. From there, Priolo goes into talking about how a husband can love his wife, and starts off with an amusing story of a man who comes to his pastor because he believes he loves his wife too much. The obvious question is, do we love our wives as much as Christ loved the church?
From here, he differentiates between love the feeling and love the action– when the guy said that he loved his wife too much he meant the feeling.
To get us to see what love is to God, we go to the famous "love passage" (1 Corinthians 13) of the Bible to look at what words are used and what parts of speech they are.
| Love Does not brag [and] | verb |
| Is not arrogant | verb |
| Does not act unbecomingly | verb |
| It does not seek its own | verb |
| Is not provoked | verb |
| Does not take into account a wrong [suffered] | verb |
| Does not rejoice in unrighteousness | verb |
| But rejoices in the truth | verb |
| Believes all things | verb |
| Hopes all things | verb |
| Endures all things | verb |
Why is this important? Because when God defined love He wanted love to be something that you do much more than he wanted it to be something that you feel.
Love is More than Doing
If we were to look at some passages on love, we would find that love is always attached with doing something: Christ loved the church and gave himself for it, love your enemies and do good to those that persecute you, give your enemy food to eat, etc. However, it’s not the love alone. But if we go back to the love chapter we will see that we can give away everything we have and still not have love. What makes love different than simply giving is the motive.
Real love gives without expecting anything in return. Real love does not need to be requited to keep on loving.
Love Meets Needs
Priolo next says that no one is expected to give into the wants and desires, but love meets the needs of the other person. Here’s his working definition:
Love is giving others what they need without having some temporal reward as the primary motive.
With this definition, the opposite of love is not hate, but selfishness, since we would not be meeting our wife’s needs. Love is giving, Selfishness is taking.
What do you think– is it possible to truly love too much?
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Table of contents for The Complete Husband
- Introduction
- I Wish She Came With an Owners Manual
- A Woman’s Roles
- 11 Questions to Ask Your Wife
- So, What’s There to Talk About?
- A Crash Course in Biblical Communication - Part 1
- 11 Un-Biblical Forms of Communication
- Maintaining a Spirit of Unity
- Love is a Verb
- The Root Cause of All Marriage Problems
- 18 Signs that Your Husband Is Bitter
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