Comments on: A Little Less ‘No’ http://www.weekendkindness.net/2007/09/04/a-little-less-no/ Reaching Others Through Kindness Tue, 10 Jan 2012 18:48:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Revka http://www.weekendkindness.net/2007/09/04/a-little-less-no/comment-page-1/#comment-3869 Revka Thu, 06 Sep 2007 20:52:32 +0000 http://www.weekendkindness.net/2007/09/04/a-little-less-no/#comment-3869 Thanks, MIn. I'm so bad about this that I thought somebody else might be, too. :) You hit the nail on the head when you said that it's easier to say 'yes' to others and 'no' to our own family. Speaking solely from my experience, the answer could lie in the old adage, "Familiarity breeds contempt." Sad but true, I find myself not as concerned about my family's reaction to my negative answer than a non-family-member's reaction. I was chronically overloaded because of saying yes to others, but I have finally gotten into the habit of checking with Mr. Incredible before saying yes to outside commitments. I am finding that my stress level has decreased since I have given up commitments at Mr. Incredible's prompting. Now if I can just remember to say 'yes' more often to my family's requests! Thanks, MIn. I’m so bad about this that I thought somebody else might be, too. :)

You hit the nail on the head when you said that it’s easier to say ‘yes’ to others and ‘no’ to our own family. Speaking solely from my experience, the answer could lie in the old adage, “Familiarity breeds contempt.” Sad but true, I find myself not as concerned about my family’s reaction to my negative answer than a non-family-member’s reaction. I was chronically overloaded because of saying yes to others, but I have finally gotten into the habit of checking with Mr. Incredible before saying yes to outside commitments. I am finding that my stress level has decreased since I have given up commitments at Mr. Incredible’s prompting.

Now if I can just remember to say ‘yes’ more often to my family’s requests!

]]> By: MInTheGap http://www.weekendkindness.net/2007/09/04/a-little-less-no/comment-page-1/#comment-3867 MInTheGap Thu, 06 Sep 2007 19:47:58 +0000 http://www.weekendkindness.net/2007/09/04/a-little-less-no/#comment-3867 Great topic, Revka. I'm sure that we all say "no" more than we should-- or say it when we should be saying "yes". And then there's the converse, when we get ourselves over committed when we say "yes" when we should say "no". Why is it easier to say "yes" when it's others and "no" when it's family? Great topic, Revka. I’m sure that we all say “no” more than we should– or say it when we should be saying “yes”. And then there’s the converse, when we get ourselves over committed when we say “yes” when we should say “no”.

Why is it easier to say “yes” when it’s others and “no” when it’s family?

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