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The Complete Husband
By Lou Priolo
The best way to get to know your wife is to talk to her. But instead of asking her about the weather, try instead to ask her things that build your relationship– intimate questions.
In the second chapter (entitled Back to School for the Rest of My Life!) of our book, the author suggests 11 questions that we can ask our wives to get to know them better. Warning, these are not for the faint of heart:
- If you could change three things about me that would make me more Christ-like, what would you change?
- Do I have any other annoying mannerisms or irritating idiosyncrasies that you would like to see me change?
- How does it make you feel when I… (name something that you know displeases her)?
- What goes through your mind when I… (name something that you know displeases her)?
- What do you want from me that I’m not giving you at the moment I… (name something that you know displeases her)?
- What specifically would you like to see me do to change in this area (name something that you know displeases her)?
- On a scale from one to ten, how would you rate our marriage?
- What would it take to make our marriage a ten?
- What is your opinion about?
- What personal goals do you have for your life? How may I help you achieve them?
- Do you have any needs or desires that you believe I ought to be meeting or fulfilling better than I do? What are they?
He then goes on to tell us to add further questions of our own.
One thing’s for sure, if you start with these questions I’m sure your wife will say some interesting things!
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Table of contents for The Complete Husband
- Introduction
- I Wish She Came With an Owners Manual
- A Woman’s Roles
- 11 Questions to Ask Your Wife
- So, What’s There to Talk About?
- A Crash Course in Biblical Communication - Part 1
- 11 Un-Biblical Forms of Communication
- Maintaining a Spirit of Unity
- Love is a Verb
- The Root Cause of All Marriage Problems
- 18 Signs that Your Husband Is Bitter
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August 27th, 2007 at 12:19 pm Subscribed to Comments
How sure are you? ;O) Have you bitten the bullet?
These are really thought-provoking. I’d think a great deal of maturity would be needed in the discussion!
On question #7, rating your marriage from a 1-10, to me this is a test of contentment and commitment. I may rate, honestly, my marriage at a 9, b/c I’m so grateful for the man God gave me, and I love him so much…but that doesn’t mean he’s perfect, or that I’m perfect. Some of these questions would really hit on issues that are highly sensitive. In a lot of couples, they could just lead to more problems. That’s why, if a husband is opening himself up to this and expects/wants honesty, he’s going to have to fortify himself ahead of time with an extra dose of humility! And maybe warn his wife ahead of time that he’s laying himself out in a very vulnerable way…
Of course, most men wouldn’t ask these questions. Only the ones truly desiring the pruning and growth part of the process. In that case…more power to them!
August 27th, 2007 at 4:13 pm
The author of this book actually encourages you to write down some of these things that you find out about your wife in a book– so you can have your own owners manual of sorts (but only with her approval).
You’re right, Mary. Doing this is a huge step of faith, but who better to help you in your spiritual growth than our closest neighbor?
Have I asked? I did the first time I read this book. I take it that you’re challenging me to do it again?