I determined before I was anywhere near marriageable age that I would not be a nagging wife. I make a point to ask only once for Mr. Incredible to do something and not to “remind” him of it later. I am blessed in that he is the kind of guy who is very responsible and dependable, always taking care of his duties.

However, even had he been a careless husband, I do not believe that nagging would accomplish anything other than to make him resistant to completing the chore, if only out of spite. :)

Do you like your wife to occasionally assume of your normal responsibilities, and, if so, which ones?

Mr. Incredible rarely does the dishes for me, either, but I, like you, feel oh-so-cherished when he does – possibly because it is such a rare event.

In light of your explanation, I can understand how your husband may be feeling, though not from a spouse’s point of view. There are people close to me who actually have criticized me often for not accomplishing tasks as they would have them done, and I find it very hard to not take it as silent criticsm when they do things for me without my requesting their help.

As one who lives with this situation, may I be so bold as to say that in due time your husband may welcome your unsolicited help? I know that, if I were convinced there were no ulterior motives or criticisms involved, I would be thrilled when the aforementioned people step in to lend a hand.

Please understand that I am only trying to offer you some encouragement and nothing more. :)

It’s strange though, whenever I surprise him by mowing the lawn or something, he almost takes it as a criticism that he hadn’t gotten around to it yet. I don’t want him to take it that way! Sadly, I think it stems from our first few years when I thought the lawn needed mowed each weekend. Hey, that’s how often my dad did it! I like to think I’m much easier to get along with now! Lol.

Good post, Revka!

MIn, I’m really enjoying the “new” Weekend Kindness. Nice to have it active again!