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Is He Kind?

Posted Monday, November 13th, 2006 and visited 153 times, 1 so far today
by MInTheGap

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My’s Space lists Ten Ways to Marry the Wrong Person, and one of them is a test about kindness.

 

#2. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character.

Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning. Beware of the “I’m in love” syndrome. “I’m in love” often means, “I’m in lust.” Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person’s character?

Here are four character traits to definitely check for:

Humility: Does this person believe that “doing the right thing” is more important than personal comfort?

Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people? How does s/he treat people s/he doesn’t have to be nice to? Does s/he do volunteer work? Give charity?

Responsibility: Can I depend on this person to do what s/he says s/he’s going to do?

Happiness: Does this person like himself? Does s/he enjoy life? Is s/he emotionally stable?

Ask yourself: Do I want to be more like this person? Do I want to have a child with this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?

This is a good test.  We all need to make sure that the one that we want to spend our life with is someone that lives a life of kindness and doesn’t just demonstrate kindness to us because they feel in love with us.  Character lasts a whole lot longer than emotion.


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One Response to “Is He Kind?”

  1. MyAvatars 0.2 Mary Says:
    November 15th, 2006 at 10:01 am

    Another good one to ask is “What’s his family like? What core values do THEY express?” They, after all, raised this person. You ARE marrying the family whether you want to believe that or not. Yes, leave and cleave…but go into marriage with your eyes wide open.

    Good points.

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