Weekend Kindness
Reaching Others Through Kindness

My’s Space lists Ten Ways to Marry the Wrong Person, and one of them is a test about kindness.

 

#2. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character.

Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning. Beware of the “I’m in love” syndrome. “I’m in love” often means, “I’m in lust.” Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person’s character?

Here are four character traits to definitely check for:

Humility: Does this person believe that “doing the right thing” is more important than personal comfort?

Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people? How does s/he treat people s/he doesn’t have to be nice to? Does s/he do volunteer work? Give charity?

Responsibility: Can I depend on this person to do what s/he says s/he’s going to do?

Happiness: Does this person like himself? Does s/he enjoy life? Is s/he emotionally stable?

Ask yourself: Do I want to be more like this person? Do I want to have a child with this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?

This is a good test.  We all need to make sure that the one that we want to spend our life with is someone that lives a life of kindness and doesn’t just demonstrate kindness to us because they feel in love with us.  Character lasts a whole lot longer than emotion.

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